Kyle Freeman’s musings on home.

I feel a truth and beauty to this adage whenever I hear “home is where the heart is.” 

And also…what do we mean when we say this? 

I think one understanding is that home is not externally reverent.

Meaning no matter where you are, if you can stay internally oriented in your heart, in love, which is also an energetic space in your body (your chest, your heart space), then you are “home.” 

But it doesn’t stop there really.

In deeper reflection, it suggests that while the home is internally reverent, it is not solely an internal space but a space that emerges somewhere in the relationship between one’s heart and the external—along the same lines of “I feel at home with this person.”

Meaning, I feel safe to be in my heart, to be vulnerable and authentic in connection to them.

Staying in the mind is a hypervigilant trauma response (even if it’s just low-key trauma).

Similar to interpersonal relationships, in a home environment, your body is in relationship to the environment, and if it feels “unsafe” for any reason, it will keep you in a hypervigilant headspace versus an embodied heartspace. 

Relationship and intimacy with an abode is very much like relationship and intimacy with a person.

And as we work on our self-awareness and relationships consciously, we come to realize vibrant relational spaces require us to engage in the journey of knowing ourselves, owning our uniqueness, needs, desires, etc.

And yes, meeting new friends, partners, and home spaces is sometimes destined, and sometimes, it is by chance, perhaps.

But also, the more you engage in self-inquiry, the more you notice that the “right” person comes at the right time.

As one friend falls away, that perfect new friend that mirrors and holds a new expression of yourself just seems to show up in your life exactly when you need her.

It’s not by chance though.

It is directly correlated to the work you’ve done to stand in yourself more fully.

Moving homes can be similar.

An abode feels more like home when your senses are satiated, needs are met, and the fullness of you (at present) is seen and mirrored.

You feel “safe” to come down from your head and relax into your soft body, into your heart.

When something external (or internal) pushes you to move homes, there is likely a deeper reason at play.

One house falls away because you are ready to find home in relationship to a new “house” that is waiting to meet you.

This dwelling has what I like to call a "spatial consciousness" that also evolves, ideally shines, in relationship with you.

So home may be where the heart is, but do you know what environments allow you to soften into your heart? 

My new course guide, “Sensing Belonging: a practical and mystical guide to the energetics of moving home” suggests there is an embodied internal process to engage in that can support you in recognizing your next home. I've created it based off of my own personal research and the work I've done with 1:1 clients over the past decade.

The beta version of Sensing Belonging runs Oct. 18, 2024 – Nov. 22, 2024. You can learn more about the course and join here. For 1:1 guidance, visit my website to learn more.

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Kyle Freeman is an artist and mystic working fluently in seen and unseen realms. She has two decades of experience refining her intuitive skills and developing an in-depth understanding of both the built environment and the individual's physical, psychological, and spiritual relationship to their body and their environment. 

Her work is infused with a deep devotion to her own internal Muses while referencing her embodied experience of these practices and philosophies. Learn more about Kyle and her offerings on her website.